My second step was to stop burying my head in the sand when it comes to my finances. Now anyone on benefits knows how much of a struggle it can be just to pay the basic household bills and to budget successfully. It can be a common misconception that we simply don't know how to budget when in actual fact the problem is that there is not enough funds to do this. Since not working I have been unable to manage on the benefits that in total are less than half of my previous working wage. Having paid off two of my major credit cards and making cut backs where possible it seems I will now scrape through each month. This is a big weight off my shoulders.
My third step was to get my flat back to feeling like my home. I started by having a really thorough tidy up of everything from Cd's to beauty products, some of which had gathered an amazing amount of dust! I then tackled what was commonly known as my Narnia cupboard, if opened you were at severe risk of something landing on your head! It is now a fully functioning accessible storage cupboard, oh how proud I am of my beautifully organised cupboard! After a couple of bags taken down to the household waste site, a trip to a few local charity shops and just a small box of items to be put on e-bay my home is clutter free. With a lovely new air freshener and a no smoking policy implemented my home now smells lovely too :-)
Part of my plan to be more pro active sees me going to meet with some of the tutors at a local college to discuss courses. This idea was introduced to me by my wonderfully helpful personal adviser at the Jobcentre. The courses are funded by the colleges and are therefore free as I am claiming ESA. I understand there are some eligibility guidelines but if you're interested then talk to your local Jobcentre. I feel this will be a really positive experience as it will allow me to meet new people with similar interests, get me out of the house and allow me to use my brain again. Fibromyalgia can cause isolation from the outside world especially if you're unable to work and spend most of your time at home. My friends, family and of course lovely Twitter family keep me going day to day but I can't help but feel there should be more to my life. I miss working terribly and hope that one day in the not too distant future I will be back in the world of work.
I plan to take each day as it comes with a positive mental attitude!
What do you find helps you stay positive?
Take care for now